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Tips of the Week for Couples

  • Another exercise from Dr. Robert Epstein: "Let Me Inside:

Stand about four feet away from each other and focus on each other. Every 10 seconds or so move a bit closer until, after several shifts, you are well inside each other's personal space (the boundary is about 18 inches). Get as close as you can without touching." This exercise often ends with kissing.

  • A final exercise from Dr. Robert Epstein: "Love Aura:

Place the palm of your hand as close as possible to your partner's palm without actually touching. Do this for several minutes, during which you will feel not only heat but also, sometimes, eerie kinds of sparks."

  • A strong sense of commitment helps love to grow.

Let your partner/spouse know that you are determined to stay in your relationship and to do whatever it takes to make it work.

  • Good communication also helps love to grow.

Set aside time each day to talk just the two of you, use "I" sentences, listen to each other without judging, be supportive and respectful.

  • Accommodation (voluntarily altering your behavior to meet the other person's needs) will help your relationship thrive.

When we change our behavior, it sends a strong message to our partner/spouse that we care about them and that they are important to us.

  • Being vulnerable with each other increases feelings of emotional intimacy and attachment.

We are vulnerable when we express how we truly feel, when we share secrets, when we show our weaknesses.

  • We also bond emotionally when we are aroused.

Sharing an adventure with your partner/spouse will increase your arousal and your bond with each other. Try something new together.

  • Sometimes our lives are so busy that we have very little time together.

Increasing the time you spend as a couple will increase your feelings of intimacy. You might cook dinner together or do a project at home or go for a walk.

  • Laughter is good medicine for our relationships.

When we share a laugh, we feel closer. Try to keep your sense of humor and share a laugh with your partner/spouse.

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